Saturday, 5 July 2014

iOS 7.1 Release Date, Jailbreak Status and Things to Know




iOS 7.1 is almost here and a number of people have already seen what it looks like. If you own a developer account with Apple, you might have installed the beta version but for regular users who are really curious to see what the latest major update to iOS holds, it’s only a matter of time before it’s unveiled for the public.

Which device gets this update?

Obviously, all devices currently running iOS 7 will get this update starting from iPhone 4 and iPad 2 upwards. It has been speculated that this might be the end of the road for this two devices and if we are to judge by the way Apple operates (they may be considered old already). iPhone 3G was dropped at iOS 4.2.1 and iPhone 3GS didn’t get past iOS 6.1.3.
There may be fixes later on but if there’s ever going to be iOS 8, these two devices won’t get it and that’s for sure.

When is iOS 7 going to be released

If earlier reports are correct, it should be available this week, the next or sometimes later this month. Reliable sources have already predicted that iOS 7.1 would be released by March and here we are already.
Although Apple may decide to change this, all indications point to next week as the release date.

Should I upgrade?

Well, yes, but not yet. It’s always advisable to chill when a new iOS version rolls out. Why? there are likely to be bugs and sometimes, those who upgrade wish they had stayed on the previous iOS version. Most of the time, it’s impossible to go back once you’ve crossed the bridge.
You don’t need to upgrade your device on the fist day iTunes prompts you to do so. Go online, read users feedback and then be sure all is well before going ahead.

Is there going to be a jailbreak for iOS 7.1?

If you’re a jailbreaker, it’s better to upgrade to iOS 7.0.6 now if your devices supports it since Evasi0n7 still jailbreaks it. For iOS 7.1, it may be a harder nut to crack and it’s possible there won’t be a jailbreak for a while… if ever there’s going to be one.
Apple has already patched the exploit Evasion7 uses on iOS 7.1. You may want to stay where you are and ignore the upgrade till a jailbreak is released.

24 Easy Ways To Make Money On The Internet



1. Website Building: If the internet is a country, then websites are like real estates. I’m hoping by now you have a general understanding that real estates are valuable in the physical world – digital real estates work the same way. By building a website, you’re creating your own plot of online “land.” You can fill this land with whatever you want, but you have to promote it through social media (and anywhere else you can think of) for this to be successful. When you build traffic to your land, you can sell people whatever you have to offer. In order to build a website, you need a host (i.e GoDaddy), a template (i.e WordPress), and content. The first two parts are easy to find, and content is only as difficult as you make it. You can post blogs, items for sale, pictures, videos, or whatever you want. Opening up your own website gives you the potential to make money from the avenues I’m going to mention.

 2. B2B Marketing: An online business model I love is utilized by GetVoiP, an affiliate marketer based in New York. GetVoiP acts as an agent for business communication providers. They maintain updated listings of VoiP providers, including ratings, comparisons, consumer reviews, in-depth knowledge of market and end-user trends, and expert opinions from business professionals on a variety of topics related to business consumers. By not only keeping abreast of news, but providing detailed analysis of products being offered, GetVoiP is able to generate traffic to their site and increase their clout with businesses. The more online clout you have as a business, the more money you’ll make. If you’re known for making lasting connections (as is the case with GetVoiP above), then you’ll have no issues building your online brand. You’ll be recognized in your community and begin to build a buzz in your industry. Tracking your numbers (how many people view your site, click each ad, and make a purchase from that click) gives you the leverage to expand this part of your business, enabling you to continue building your online rep.

3. Google Adsense: If that sounds like too much technical information for you, there is an easy button – Google’s advertising platform is as simple as signing up, enabling (on Blogger) or pasting a small code on your website, and allowing the advertisements to automatically roll in. The problem with this program is that you don’t get any commissions – and you don’t get to control the ad content. This is useful for some, but powerful users will want something a little more robust.

4. Amazon Associates: Amazon has an Associates program for site owners and bloggers. They offer a search tool to find the right products and services from their site and a variety of ad styles to display on your site, including text-based and banner images (digital billboards) like this: Each item purchased through your Amazon links give you a commission. It doesn’t take high volume traffic to achieve results, either. I began making money with the program when I only had 1,000 hits per month on my site. They can apply your earnings to your Amazon account balance, issue you a check, or direct deposit into your bank account. If you love Amazon, you’ll love their associate’s program. Click here for another Lifehack dedicated to Amazon Associates.

5. Rakuten Linkshare: Amazon and Google are far from your only options for online advertising. Rakuten Linkshare is a great place to search for other affiliates for your ads. Through their program, you can get customized ad links, email links, and banner ads for Starbucks, Walmart, iTunes, and a slew of other popular brands. With this program, you can also find smaller companies, regional or specialized brands, and more. I run a combination of Google, Amazon, and Rakuten’s programs, and my monthly income is approximately $150 from these programs. It’s not a lot of money, but it’s also not a lot of work for residual (it means recurring…since the ads are permanent…) income.

6. Company Referral Programs: Speaking of the benefits of permanent ads, banners and links aren’t the only ways to earn a little bit of dough off your online endeavors. By having a website, you gain the power of emailing companies to ask them for things. I have no shame in letting the yoga company whose mat I’m looking into purchasing know that I have a blog and write for yoga publications – it sometimes gets me discounts. Other times, I gain a valuable business contact in PR, advertising, or other aspects of corporate sales. Sometimes I just get a free drink. Either way, money in and of itself is worthless. Ditch the middle man and use the internet to barter what you have and can do for what you need.

7. Klout: If you have a social media account, try out Klout. The company tracks your social media usage, determines how big and what type of audience you draw based on the subject matter of your updates and posts. Using this information, you’re qualified to receive free items, tickets, etc. Check their website often to find ways of earning free stuff by doing what you’re already doing online…boring the rest of us…

8. EBay: If you have anything you want to sell, then EBay is the place you need to seriously consider doing it first. Personally I’m not a fan of the site because of the work it takes to build up a reputation. If you’re willing to grind through that process, you’ll be rewarded with many privileges – people have gotten rich selling books about how they got rich selling everything on EBay: Click here for a few tips from the pros.

9. Amazon: If you start getting too big for EBay or decide you want to try a different flavor, Amazon has a marketplace as well. I prefer using Amazon because I can depend on their shipping, have a Prime account, and trust their reviews (overall, not usually singularly, although occasionally that as well). Learn more about Amazon’s marketplace by clicking on this Lifehack, and delve into the marketplace. The difference between Amazon and EBay is that EBay (though still filled with new items) is seen as a used marketplace between individual parties, whereas Amazon (which is filled with offers for new and used merchandise from the 3rd parties) is viewed as a Wal-Mart-type superstore. As a consumer, this difference leads me to use Amazon, so it only makes sense to target on my own demographic.

10. Etsy: If you’re crafty (and I mean that in more than one way, wink wink), you’ll enjoy Etsy. Handcrafted items are the bread and butter here. Plenty of people make decent side money on the site, which is basically an EBay for crafters and artists. Set up a sellers account with Etsy, and you’ll be asked to set up your virtual storefront and put up at least 5 goods for sale. Once you have this down, you’ll be a budding Etsy entrepreneur. Provide great quality to your customers, and they’ll often return. Many people are willing to pay a premium for quality handmade designs. Etsy (like EBay and Amazon) takes a cut off the top for selling items through their site. PayPal takes another cut, and you have to be careful with taxes on all income, so be diligent while building your online business.

11. Craigslist: Craigslist is the modern equivalent of the classified ads that dominated the days of newspapers. These quick ads are easy to navigate and use, and they’re geographically linked. Whether you’re selling something or offering a service, this lifehack is a great place to start learning the intricacies of Craigslist. Posting ads on Craigslist is technically easy, but people often have fears about posting their personal information on the site. I communicate mostly through email when doing business on Craigslist, and I’ve never run into any issues. I’ve never been ripped off, nor have I been murdered or raped for using the site. It takes common sense, so use your best judgment, but don’t assume someone is a thief just because of their preferred communication method. For an extra bonus, google “funny Craigslist ads” to see some delightful examples of guerilla and grassroots marketing.

12. Indeed Maybe what you need is a job. It doesn’t matter which job search site you prefer using (even Craigslist) – Indeed tracks them all, and then some. You can find jobs posted on company websites, through temp agencies, and more at Indeed. If money is something you really need, Indeed is most definitely the place you want to visit to browse career opportunities.

13. Elance Where Indeed excels at finding job postings across the web and acting as a search crawler for employment, maybe a full-fledged career is too big of a commitment at this point in your life. Elance is a site to find freelance work of all types. I’ve used it for quick writing, editing, copywriting, resume building, and other odd jobs and temp gigs. The experience has been great. Elance offers a wide array of technical, data entry, accounting, and other freelance and temp gigs. If you’re just looking for something short and sweet, log in, input and showcase your marketable skills, and begin searching through their job database, using any parameters you desire. Once you submit a bid, you’ll receive an acceptance or denial – you may get a few rejections, but don’t sweat it. Negotiate the terms of your bid, and get to work. You have money to make.

14. Mturk: If you’ve heard of crowdsourcing (and even if you haven’t), Amazon’s Mechanical Turk program is a great place to get involved. Much like at Elance, you input your info and skills. You then are able to search for different menial tasks ranging from identifying inappropriate web content to transcribing audio recordings to basic data entry work. Just like at any other job, the more work you do, and the better your quality, the more opportunities you’ll have to make money. The payouts are often small, and your payment is received in Amazon credit, but Mturk is a great place to make mindless money while veg’ing on the couch watching TV.

15. LinkedIn: LinkedIn is a social media site for professionals. This isn’t a direct way to make money, but it’s a great way to connect to your current and potential peers, customers, clients, vendors, and more here. You’ll build a reputation and get in the loop on important developments in your chosen career path and/or industry. One day an old college buddy may hit you up for a dream job you never considered at the exact moment you are looking for a new vocation. Whether you like it or not, keeping your LinkedIn profile current is a great way to get surprised with new work opportunities out the blue. 


16. Care.com: If you’re an experienced nanny or babysitter, Care.com is the place you want to make money. By listing yourself on the Craigslist of Childcare, you’ll broaden your reach and increase your odds of finding the right gig at the right time. You can be pickier with what kids you watch when you have the reputation and traffic to pull in more customers. Join Care.com and start making money by investing in the future of our youth.

17. ThePirateBay: I support bootlegging – I don’t see it as being immoral or unethical in any way. I used to bootleg quite a bit in my youth, and I still do on occasion today (although not yet today in particular, I more meant “in the present”). If you want to hustle for your money, do what you must, baby. Download some software, music, movies, or other assorted digital goodness here and start slangin. It’s not an easy life, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

18. iTunes: If you’re a musician, writer, artist, tech nerd, pundit, or can produce any type of audio, video, or text worth consuming, you may be able to sell some stuff in Apple’s flagship iTunes store. By selling your work here, you’re able to stand next to the marketing clout of big business. You can make a healthy living off the iTunes store, and there’s no better time than now. Learn more about iTunes with this lifehack.

19. Yelp!: If you have a business, you want to get listed on Yelp! You may not use the software, but some people do, and they use it religiously (and I don’t mean they’ll kill you over it). By listing your business on Yelp!, you’re putting yourself on the map. From here, you also need to start using Yelp! Write reviews of places you go. It’ll be worth it in the long run. Soon, you’ll have a dozen or so reviews under your belt and can hire yourself out as a Yelp! reviewer. There are ethical and moral questions to doing this, but the title of this piece is “ways to make money,” not “ethical ways to make money,” and I am a former Bank of America/Countrywide employee, so what’d you expect?

20. Wikipedia: Another seemingly free site you can make money from is Wikipedia. People who say it’s easy to edit Wikipedia have clearly never tried editing Wikipedia – it’s a pain. Thankfully it’s a pain for companies as well, so many of them are willing to pay editors to assist them in the editing process. You’ll become a bounty hunter in a way, choosing your own lines to cross and keep. If editing is something you like to do, and you’re willing to put in the work it takes to learn Wikipedia’s dispute process, roll up your sleeves and try this one out.

21. Blogging I make the bulk of my money from blogging. In addition to the advertising revenue streams mentioned above, I also receive flat rate payments for blogging from various blogs throughout the web. I’m paid to write as a whistleblower, financial analyst, reviewer, commentator, and more. Writing for other sites builds traffic to my personal blog. The traffic for this blog gives me clout to present to advertisers. To create your own blog, you don’t even need a web domain. You can start a completely free blog on either WordPress or Blogger. Each of these sites has its ups and downs, but you can’t beat the price. You generally want to keep blog posts between 150-500 words until you have a few dozen under your belt. Links between your blog posts encourage people to stay on your blog once they find it, increasing traffic. Once your blog is up, promote it on social media for the greatest effect.

22. Kickstarter If you have a passion project, Kickstarter may be exactly what you need to get it off the ground. Celebs like Zach Braff and Melissa Joan Hart have used this site in attempts to fund their movie projects. Some crack dealers in Canada inspired a “crackstarter” campaign from Gawker for pictures of the Toronto mayor smoking crack with them. All you need is a dream, a goal, a budget, and a great pitch to convince people to come to the site and donate to your Kickstarter campaign. Panhandling isn’t dead – it’s gone digital…

23. Extreme Couponing If you’ve never heard of extreme couponing, check out this lifehack on the subject. Once you’re versed on the idea, what you have to do is a bit difficult at first, but it’s a great way to both save and make money: go to hip2save.com and get a feel for the types of deals that are out there (both online and in the physical world). Once you’re comfortable with the process, start searching for the best deals in grocery, retail, and online shopping. After a month or two of extreme couponing, you’ll have enough cleaning, hygiene, and food supplies stocked up to save a noticeable amount of money. Now maybe you don’t need to make as much…?

24. Social Media: No matter what you do to make money online, promote it on your social media accounts. You have a base of people who are already interested in you and have a vested interest in your brand – why would you not want to take advantage of that? By promoting yourself and your projects on your social media accounts, you’re greatly increasing the chances of people actually giving you money in exchange for your goods and services. Stop being shy and get out there.

Top 5 Internet Security Solutions to Secure your Online Activities

Top 5 Internet Security Solutions to Secure your Online Activities



With Cyber criminals on the rise, the Internet is no longer a secure place for anyone. With the increasing rate of malware and spyware attacks, Internet Security is a major concern for organizations and individuals across the world. Here is a quick look at some of the best options available in the market, which helps to keep your system and your business protected from cyber threats.


BullGuard Internet Security















The Internet Security software from BullGuard is a leading name in its genre. The intuitive and simple interface it has makes it supremely convenient to manage and track security issues. The intuitive nature of the interface ensures that you can easily and quickly access the necessary features and functionality, eliminating the need to search for them.
It provides some of the best anti-virus programs built-in to protect against hazardous malwares.
BullGuard Internet security software is also built-in with a full parental control program which ensures your children remain protected against cyber predators. You can block suspicious sites, implement search filters and limit browsing time, as well as monitor their browsing behavior. All this can be achieved without them even being aware of it. Thus, it ensures both of you have peace of mind.
The BullGuard software also offers an auto backup feature to help you store all your important files and folders in the 5 GB storage space provided. If you do not wish to use the auto backup feature you can customize your storage behavior defining the amount you wish to store and the frequency. Download BullGuard Here

BitDefender Internet Security





















BitDefender provides a whole host of Internet security features that ensure complete protection of user activity. Year after year, this awesome software always finds its way into the top lists of internet security programs. BitDefender has a lot of features and they include:
  • Antivirus & Antispyware: BitDefender defends you against malicious programs and protects your identity and private information from getting into the wrong hands.
  • Very fast and non-obtrusive: Unlike most popular antivirus programs, BitDefender ensures your PC runs smoothly and it doesn’t interfere with the normal operation of your computer.
  • BitDefender SafePay: With this great feature, you can be rest assured you can transact online safely without compromising your credit card details.
  • Wallet: This stores you login credentials to your  favorite websites and apps and even logs you in securely when the need arises.
  • Two-way firewall: This monitors your internet connection and ensures intruders have no access to your WiFi connection.
  • Simple User Interface: With a user interface that’s friendly, straighforward and easy to understand, you can adjust your settings easily if you ever need to but you likely won’t… BitDefender Autopilot takes care of everything.Download Here  

 Norton Internet Security



The Internet Security software from Norton is another big name in the league. It provides active protection against virus attacks, spasm, identity thefts and the social media dangers lurking in the cyber space.
The pack provides for automatic product downloads and installations which helps to keep your software upgraded. This ensures that the product is geared to silently provide you with protection from new threats and dangers.
It conducts regular scans to identify some of the most malicious threats which tend to throttle the performance capacity of your system. It cleans and disinfects your system, thus boosting its performance and extending its longevity.
The Internet is an important medium for the exchange of information. Protecting its authenticity and credibility is therefore most crucial in this age of evolving business mechanics. Appliances providingInternet Security therefore, assume extreme importance in maintaining the sanctity of the Internet. Download Here

Kapersky Internet Security



Another force to be reckoned with when it comes to internet security is Kapersky. Kapersky blocks even the most aggressive threats on the internet and with a host of features you probably won’t find on other software progams in this category, you’re secured even when surfing Facebook.
Features include:
  • Strong parental controls
  • Identify theft protection
  • A two-way firewall
  • Safe surfing
  • Facebook tools
  • A geo filter
  • Online banking mode
As good as this program is, a number of users complain it eats a lot of resource and slows down their PC in theprocess. If you’re using a PC with very high specification, you probably won’t notice this though.Download Here
F-Secure Internet Security























F-Secure is also a dependable internet security solution that secures your internet activities. As expected, the suite contains parental control, email filtering, an effective firewall and other features. It limits bandwith usage for interaction with cloud dependent services when connected through mobile broadband and this is a huge plus for this software.
It also provides identity protection tools and the antivirus engine protects against known and new internet viruses.Download Here

8 Silliest Internet Lingo You Didn’t Know About


















8 Silliest Internet Lingo You Didn’t Know About


LMFAO, ROFL, TTYL, FYI, ASAP, AFK, OMG and more..
You got it right; we are talking of Internet lingo and slang. Since, the coming of social networking websites including Facebook and twitter, lingos has been the common language for many of us. No chat in this world have gone through without the use of any of this lingoes.
But have you ever heard of FTFY? Or what about GOMB, DIAF or GLFH?
Here’s a list of internet lingo you certainly didn't know about!

1. FTFY (Fixed That for You)

Most of the time, this is used humorously to change the meaning for a meme. It is also appropriate and used in correcting other’s grammatical errors or factual errors.

2. DIAF (Die in a Fire)

This type of acronym is used when the subjects upsets the person behind.

3. SMEXI (Smart + Sexy)

The SMEXI lingo has seen a birth in the recent years. It was used extensively in the early days of MSN. After which it got a comma-ed, and finally is getting used these days (specially in 2013). It is often used in Instagram-like social websites where it is used sarcastically for a flattering photo.

4. GOMB (Get Off My Back)

Get off my Back!

5. GLHF (Good Luck, Have Fun)

If you are an avid user of online gaming (like WoW) then this might be familiar with you. It is generally used before a online match/battle as a sign of sportsmanship.

6. SO (Significant other)

Like GLHF (used in gaming community), SO is rather used in Reddit. It is quite popular word there. This word is better used when one wants to maintain anonymity.

7. MFW (My Face When)

Likewise SMEXI, MFW is also used sarcastically. This phrase is mostly used alongside a meme or a selfie.

8. IIRC (If I Remember Correctly)

The term is quite self-explanatory. This is used to express a unconfirmed yet certain memory.
While it may seem like just yesterday that we were all getting dial-up connections installed, the internet has been around to produce a language of its own.

17 Signs You've Been Staying In The Same Job For Too Long
















17 Signs You've Been Staying In The Same Job For Too Long


As children, we all have our dreams. We are going to be doctors, lawyers, astronauts, or NBA players. Then reality sets in. The cost of college or graduate school deters you from going. And then you realize the chances of you making it to the NBA are small because you’re only 5’10”. Then you settle. You settle, you settle, and then you settle some more. Here are 17 signs that you have been staying in the same job too long, and it’s time to get a little inspiration to get your tushie in gear and make a change.

1. You learn absolutely nothing new at training sessions.

Yeah, yeah, yeah … team building. Yaddah yaddah yaddah… leadership. Blah blah blah…diversity. If you could teach the trainings yourself, maybe you should actually go do it!

 2. You think the new employees are “kids.”

Aging is weird. It sneaks up on you. But when the day comes that all the new people seem like children to you, then you know that maybe you’ve been there a little too long. Well, let me clarify. If the new hires who are equals – at the same level as you – are “kids,” then that’s a problem.

3. Your sick days and vacation days may have rolled over so long that you might lose them.

Hey, it’s highly commendable that you are so healthy that you don’t need your sick days. But if your vacation days have stacked up because you can’t afford to take one, well, maybe you need to get some more ambition and move up the corporate ladder.

4. Your stack of awards for longevity on the job are piling up.

It’s great that you have commitment. Commitment is good. Well, that is if you’re talking about a 50-year marriage. But if you’ve been so committed to your company, your boss, or your job that you just get numb inside when you see all the plaques on your wall for all the years you’ve been there, well, need I say more?

5. You surf the internet way too much.

Either you get done with your work way too quickly (and have a lot of time left over), or there isn’t enough work for you. It doesn’t matter. Either way, your brain is searching for ways to overcome boredom. You can only watch so many YouTube videos a day before your mind becomes mush.

6. You constantly check your clock to see if it’s 5 PM yet.

Is there anything worse than having time drag? I think not. Have you ever heard of the saying, “Time flies when you’re having fun?” Yeah. We all have. But if that’s not what you’re living, then there’s a problem. You should be in the moment and love what you’re doing. Not be a clock-watcher.

7. You daydream about anything … and everything.

Winning the lottery. A fantasy trip to Bora Bora. Escaping your life and living on a mountain alone. It doesn’t matter. If you find yourself thinking about anything other than work, then your mind is trying to tell you that it’s bored. Prepare for the next challenge.

8. You don’t get invited out with the “in-crowd” for happy hour anymore.

Maybe you used to be the life of the party in your day. But what if you’re only in your 30s? It’s not okay if you consider yourself “over the hill” if you’re not. Heck, even if you really are over the hill, it’s better to live in denial. If you’ve lost your spark, you need to go find it again. Probably somewhere else.

9. Your resume titles sound different, but the descriptions are the same.

Let’s face it. Anyone who has written a “good” resume knows that it always sounds better “on paper.” A telemarketer can be a “marketing specialist.” Or a receptionist can be an “executive assistant.” Anyone who has written a good resume knows that you can spin any job into sounding cool. If you find yourself doing that, you need to move on.

10. You no longer care about cool business lunches.

It used to be a sign of prestige. It used to be a time to go out and show your stuff. It was glamorous. It was seductive. But if all you do is dread these business lunches, well, you guessed it. Houston, we have a problem!

11. You don’t care if you get in trouble from HR or your boss.

Maybe it’s that you know them too well because you’ve been there forever. Or maybe you just don’t even care about being fired anymore – either because you think you can’t be – or because you think it might actually be a good thing.

12. You could sleepwalk through your job because you know it so well.

While feeling confident and knowledgeable in your duties is a wonderful thing, if it becomes so routine that you could do it blindfolded and tied up, then that’s a problem. Human beings need positive challenge in life to thrive. So if you’re not getting any, it’s time to do something different.

13. You count the “ya knows” and “likes” that the newest 22-year-old is saying.

You’re so bothered by the new cool lingo of the 20-somethings that, in order to keep you from doing something unacceptable, you decide to count the number of times that they say a word. Obviously, this will just drive you crazy and it won’t help you retain what they are saying.

14. You don’t even need to look at your performance review, because it’s the same. Every. Single. Time.

If you just toss your review in the bottom drawer of your desk without looking at it, you might have a problem. Maybe you’re at the top of your game and you don’t need to improve. If so, that’s great. But you’ll never know what to change if you don’t even glance at it. But if you have enough experience with reading the same comments over and over, then it’s time to move on.

15. Your boss is 20 years younger than you.

How did that happen? When did that happen? If the “kids” are already at your level or above (like your superior), maybe you need to look for the next challenge and better yourself.

16. Your reasons for staying aren’t even believable to you anymore.

Health insurance. Vacation. Sick days. Promotion opportunities. Your commitment to the company. While these might be some good reasons to stay, remember, when you go somewhere else, you will probably have a similar situation with all of these things. So these reasons aren’t really reasons, they’re called excuses.

17. You dream of retirement.

If you start calculating how much money you’ll bring in per month between your retirement pension and social security, then you are dreaming of escape. Not many people look forward to being “old,” but if it’s your fantasy because that means freedom from the mundane doldrums of your job, then you need to start moving onward and upward.

The takeaway

Becoming stagnant in any area of our lives is not healthy. And plus, safety and security are only illusions. So be brave. Be bold. Try new things. Get a new job!


23 Signs that You May Be an Introvert
















23 Signs that You May Be an Introvert

Are you secretly an introvert? Do you even know what being an introvert really means? Introverts are often misunderstood, as the term introvert is often thought to be someone who is shy, is a wallflower at parties, and doesn't like other people. This is not true.

Have you thought you might be an introvert but didn't want to be?

I can’t emphasize enough that introverts are not all shy. Most people I know don’t realize I am one because they don’t understand what an introvert really is. Some people whom you may think are introverted may not be; they may just be quiet.
Maybe you think being an introvert is a bad thing. Nothing is further from the truth. The characteristics of an introvert will be more clear after you read through the list below.

Signs you may be an introvert

  1. You often dread going to an event where there will be a lot of people
  2. You relish the time you have alone, sneaking off to take a bath or go for a walk
  3. You prefer to sit back and observe
  4. Your inner world is rich
  5. You enjoy spending time by yourself
  6. You dislike small talk
  7. You enjoy discussing your favorite topics with others
  8. You tend to tune out when someone you don’t know well is giving you their entire life history
  9. You need to get out for walks during work to take a break from all the people
  10. You like people, you just need them in smaller doses
  11. You prefer to spend time with friends one-on-one, or in very small groups
  12. You dreaded your wedding reception (all those people to talk to)
  13. You have a few close friends rather than many acquaintances
  14. You are often stressed by being in a group of people
  15. You listen more than you talk
  16. You enjoy solitary activities like reading
  17. You need a space of your own where you can go and shut the door
  18. You get crabby after spending a lot of time around other people
  19. You are humiliated if you think you made a mistake in public
  20. You don’t easily share your feelings with others
  21. You like creative and imaginative activities
  22. You don’t like to talk to strangers
  23. You may or may not be shy
Do some of these signs describe you? Once you understand you are an introvert it makes life a lot easier.
I have been an introvert my entire life. I come from a family of introverts as well, but I didn't know about or understand what an introvert was. As an adult, I had a great conversation with a co-worker that really led me to understand the introvert/extrovert difference and myself better. My co-worker was an extrovert married to an introvert, and I was living with an extrovert at the time.
We discussed that the extrovert in the relationship needs to get out and be energized by people, while the introvert needs quiet time to recharge, so being in a group will drain that person. This revelation was so helpful to me in understanding some of the challenges in my relationship.
How can you use this information in your life? Once you understand what being an introvert is really all about how you are energized you can more easily take the time you need for yourself.
Limit the time you are in large groups and know that it is okay to need to leave. Let your family and friends know what to expect and what it means that you are an introvert. Having a significant other who understands your needs helps a great deal: My husband and I went to a large outdoor music festival recently; it was a long day, packed with great music. At the end of the day, the top tier musicians were playing and it was very crowded. I just wanted to crawl into a ball—the stimulation and crowd were too much, but my husband was as giddy as a schoolboy.
At no time has the difference between introverts and extroverts been more apparent to me. Another day at the same music festival he actually drove me home before the big acts because I was so overwhelmed by the large crowds and couldn't stay. We now try to limit our festivals to smaller ones that don’t get so crowded.
Parties can be challenging, so let your close friends know you are an introvert and that you may need to leave 2-3 hours into their get-together. The number of people and the energy level may be too overwhelming for you. Three hours is usually my limit, but I know this now and I can let my friends know what to expect. Their understanding makes it a lot easier.
Being an introvert is a great thing, as you will observe things others don’t. There is so much going on in your mind at all times, so use that to your advantage. To the extroverts: I hope you find this helpful. My mother-in-law recently read the book, Quiet, which is about introverts, and now understands her oldest son much better because of it. I would recommend this book to everyone to gain a deeper understanding of what being an introvert means.

12 Signs That You’re in a Highly Cherished Relationship


















12 Signs That You’re in a Highly Cherished Relationship

How can you tell that you are in a highly cherished relationship? Usually, the signs are pretty obvious. Read the 12 pointers below that will confirm if you are on the right track. If you cannot tick off all these, then there might be some repair-work to be done!

What do we mean by cherished?

“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.” – Oscar Wilde
Most marriage or partnership ceremonies mention the word ‘cherish.’ The best definition of the word ‘cherished’ is ‘nurtured.’ Think of a plant which needs water, sunshine, and a bit of tender loving care. Just do that today and every day. The plant or relationship will grow and flourish as you discover each other.
“Before someone’s tomorrow has been taken away, cherish those you love, appreciate them today.” – Michelle C. Ustaszeski

1. You never make these mistakes.

Watch this five minute video which will show how this couple went wrong and how they failed miserably to cherish each other.

2. You get a message every day.

These messages are usually little gems to show you are loved and appreciated. They can be silly or funny ‘love you’ messages, notes left in weird places, in jokes, and coded messages. They have one thing in common – they show that you are treasured.

3. You are up to-date on your partner’s schedule.

Simple, but effective. You know what is happening at work and vice versa. You swap worries, anxieties, and successes. These are always followed up with specific questions about how the day went. Don’t forget to ask for more details.

4. Your partner or spouse has no problems with your success.

Promotions, awards, brilliant performance reports, and success in the sports arena are always ok. Your partner does not feel threatened or lose self-esteem when you are on a winning streak. It is all part of your personal development and you should never feel stifled in a relationship. A study, led by Kate Ratliff at the University of Florida showed:
  • Men were more likely to suffer loss of self-esteem when their partner achieved success.
  • The ‘Oscar Love Curse’ after women won Oscars may have affected some relationships negatively.
  • Many partnerships broke up, eg. Halle Berry, Sandra Bullock, and Kate Winslet, just to name a few.
  • Dutch men felt similarly although the gender gap there is less than in the USA.

5. You never feel threatened, insulted, or inadequate.

When your partner is angry, you never feel that you are under threat or that there is a risk for your safety. Angry moments melt like snow in the sun. There is no fallout afterwards. You have never experienced insults or threats and you have certainly never been emotionally blackmailed. A positive indicator might be that 95% of the time you spend together is calm, peaceful, and mutually fulfilling. You do not feel that you have to act a part in a domestic play.

6. You share precious moments.

“Cherish all your happy moments; they make a fine cushion for old age.” – Booth Tarkington
You both ensure that special occasions are celebrated and recorded. But this also includes sharing everyday pleasurable moments when doing things together, such as watching sports or eating out. They will be valuable moments later on and will be visual reminders of a cherished relationship.

7. You are grateful and you say thank you.

Every day, your partner shows you some appreciation simply for your presence. You can respond by being grateful and using words to show that the appreciation is mutual.

8. You have your own space.

Space is not just a physical room where you can be quiet and alone when you need to be. No relationship can thrive when a clinging partner threatens to suffocate you. You also feel that you have room to grow, develop your own projects, and hang out with your own friends. Your partner feels the same about his/her interests and you both ask how these are progressing.

9. You are always given support.

“I never wanted a Guardian Angel. I didn’t ask for one. One was assigned to me.” – Mercedes McCambridge
You feel your partner is like a guardian angel who offers support, advice, and help for you to get through a difficult patch, like an issue at work, bereavement, or a health problem.

10. You always make time to spend time together.

Couples grow apart very often because they are too bound up with work and commitments. Eventually, the lack of prime time together becomes a negative force. Workaholic tendencies need to be checked because loneliness is often the first step in a break-up.

11. You are never nagged.

Lucky you! How many partners would like to be able to say that? It is a sad fact that the actual nagging about trivial things becomes a negative message. The partner is aware that he or she is not appreciated, is inadequate, or the partnership is floundering like a ship on the rocks. Very often, nagging means that there are underlying problems that need to be addressed.

12. You feel perfectly at ease in the relationship.

Tom Hanks, in the film ’Sleepless in Seattle,’ summed it up so well…
“It was a million tiny little things that, when you added them all up, they meant we were supposed to be together… and I knew it.”
So, how did you do? Were you able to tick off all the 12 signs that you truly are in a highly cherished relationship? If not, who is the guilty party? If it is you, then you can start to fix a few things right away. If it is your partner you could show him or her this post. Better still, you could just have a chat about it. Much cheaper than going to a therapist!